My hubby and I have been working on short and long term goals. We’ve a few. One other thing as we’ve processed the grief of older teens leaving home and a smaller home base, and our accident and recovery from the drunk driver who hit us back in March with a stolen vehicle…..we need to focus on ourselves a little.
Parents are notorious (or should be?) for sacrificing oneself for the good of the kids/family all too often. We in no way plan to neglect our last in the nest, but we do plan to take better care of ourselves physically and emotionally so we can be the best parents to her as well.
In the hustle of raising the first crew that has left the mother ship, we often did sacrifice things for ourselves more than we probably should have. So now is our time. Not to embrace selfishness – but to embrace self-love for the health of ALL of us. Phew, this may be harder than I thought, but also exciting to recover ourselves a little.
So, the lists are being made….cups are going to get filled. I may have to say “no” still – but for the right reason of self recovery from a long journey that I’m still resting from. I have to stop the horse from running home, like I did when I was a teen riding with my Dad and he taught me the horses want to run home, but don’t let them….hold them back. He was right and it was a training thing for life as well. Sometimes I over-involve because I’m “back” feeling good and ready to put my energy to use all over the place….so I’m going to work on pulling back the reins and going home slower….savor the little moments and find myself in a better place.